Tips on making girl feels good on your first date.

This is my personal opinion only.

1. Check a little bit on her background during chat or facebook to know what type of person is she. Student? Worker? Professional? Businessman? Entrepreneur? Dress accordingly. Don't wear formal, tie and coat if she is student. This will make her feel not comfortable.

2. Ask question to her about herself. Talk less about yourself unless she asked a lot about you. 

3. Ask her what to eat on the menu and help her to order it. 

4. Choose a suitable place for the date. Don't pick noisy place. Choose place with some people but not too many people.

5. Don't simply touch her. Respect the girl and she will respect you back.

6. Talk the way she talked to you. If she talks fast, you should not talk too slow. If she talks a lot, let her do so.

7. Listen to what she said and ask question accordingly. Don't ask question that is totally different than what you and her discussed.

8. Sometimes a moment of silence is good too. 

9. Don't eat too fast, it will cause her to eat faster and feel uncomfortable.

10. Don't eat too less. She will not dare to eat much if you do so.

11. Don't eat too much, you will scare her off.

12. Pay for the bill, don't be a jackass. 

Date with strangers experience.

I had asked many girls out for dinner and movie. If you consider dinner and movie privately with a girl at some nice restaurant as a date, then i had been on many dates. 

Just sharing some of my experience. Strangers that I date are really from online dating website. Some of them are a bit desperate to find boyfriend but some of them are just trying to make more friends so they can do their business better. Like what I did before. The group of people that I meant is insurance agent and direct sales distributor. Both of these group of people hope to meet as much friends as before. Although some might really end up become a couple after some dates, the chances to get together with these 2 groups of people are really rare.

So most of the people who are using these dating websites with the original intention and purpose of them had less choices to choose from. Most of the girl and boy that i met from these web are either introvert, which mean does not know how to socialize well, or not so good looking physically, like don't know how to make up, fat or etc. Well, you can say that might be true for me because I am using them too. Its not totally wrong. I am sometimes introvert and I am not so good looking physically. Hahahaha.

Although I am not so good looking physically, I had been quite an ass. Quite picky on most of the thing. Whenever i date a girl and the feeling is not right, i will not date that girl anymore. I found out that this is not only happening to me. Some girls that I met also did the same. Its some sort of signal like "we are not really suitable together, let's not waste our precious time".

Some of you might say, "oh my, why not just going out as friends first". Well, I am meeting a strangers that i know not much about. If i bring her to meet my friends, my friends will thought I had some feeling for her. If we went out privately, it will feel like we are having a date. So in the end, i think not meeting up is a better choice. I don't feel guilty or anything too. Its not like I did anything to her on the first date too.

Tip on making her feels good at the first date on next post.

Getting a Job in Netccentric.

It was 2 weeks back when i got invited to attend an interview in Netccentric.

There are few companies that are really famous under Netccentric in Malaysia which is Nuffnang and ChurpChurp. Nuffnang is doing blog advertising for blogger while ChurpChurp is a social media platform. 

My jobstreet resume status is not actively looking for job. So one afternoon, Netccentric called me when I was in the toilet. It was a coincidence. The HR Executive called and asked me whether I heard of Nuffnang or not. Of course yes. So she invited me to attend for an interview. Actually I don't plan to change job because i feel quite comfortable working at my current company. However, its Nuffnang. I had started using this website before i came to KL. And now they wanted to interview me, of course i gonna grab this opportunity.

So the interview date and time had been arranged to the time which is after work. However, i reached earlier by half hour and waited in the room. So the interviewer came in and i intro-ed myself. After a short introduction, i showed my resume that i printed out from jobstreet... Since the resume is available there, i didn't make one on my own. 

So after viewing my resume, he tested my technical skill. He asked me to write a function on the spot. I wrote it but its quite messy. It is a very hard question if you don't have a very good basic. And after the first question, he asked another question and this time i solved it easily. 

He told me we will keep in touch again. At that time, I feel very happy because it seems like the interviewer is really interested in me. 

So i waited for a week and they finally called me. The person in charge, which is a girl, asked me to send 2 referral name from my current company and previous company to her. So i sent it. 

That night, i go back home and sleep and dreamt about being offered by the company. In my dream, they offer me RM300 higher than my expected salary. I am very happy that it happened. I thought it will happen in real life. Or they might offer me even higher than what i had dreamt of.

So the next day she called me and told me that they will offer me the job but with a salary that I don't feel satisfied with which is 200 less than my expected salary. I had calculated everything before i went for interview. The cost to go there is very high, and time consuming. If it didn't reach my expected salary, i will not go there for sure. Actually, my expected salary is really low since i need to travel far. I should have asked for higher because of the transportation problem. 

I rejected the offer however she called me back and told me they had discussed and finally can offer me my expected salary. 

So i printed my resignation letter and my offer letter from Nuffnang. I bring everything to the discussion room and meet with my team leader. I tell him everything, from the start until the end and about my calculation of everything. He bring in the Managing Director and the Executive Director. Both of them are very nice to me.

In the end, they successfully convince me to stay by promising something good will happen. I believe them because it is their promise. If they didn't keep their promise, it wont be too late to resign by then.

I also don't feel to leave the company when the version 3 is under development. 85% of the back end code is done by me. I want to watch the baby grow. See how well it works with other department to earn money. The function that the company use to earn money currently, almost all of the back end code is done by me. I can say is about 95%. The front end code is done by one of my colleagues alone. Basically it's like 2 men show. Team lead who are experienced will only review the code and do some minor minor changes while the senior developer who just came in is still on the phase of picking up.

So the conclusion is, i rejected the offer. I feel a bit sorry for Netccentric especially the HR executive that had been questioned by me about everything of the company. I am really really sorry. 

I hope there is a chance to work together in future. Wish everything will go well there. Again, thank you very much to Netccentric for a wonderful experience :)